Category archive: Personal
People lately have often been asking me, “Is there anything you can’t do?” which always amuses me greatly, for there are SO many things!
So I thought I would make a quick, silly post about the things that I can’t do.
Note: This list is obviously just for fun – I’m not getting down on myself, its just for a laugh. Who knows, some of these things may be ‘to dos’ for the future!
- Draw, Paint, or Photoshop. [Proof]
- Salsa and Tango
- Drive on the Freeway (Merging! D:)
- Play a musical instrument
- Do the Splits
- Fix a car
- Change a flat tire
- Catch a wave while surfing
- Quirk an eyebrow without scrunching up my face
- Tolerate drunk people
- Play sports
- Cut my own hair
- Live without spicy food
- Get through a photoshoot without one ridiculous face
- Cook complicated meals
- Deal with spiders
- Speak another language fluently
- Drink coffee
- Eat Olive Oil
- Brave cold weather
Going to the gym for the first time can be a nerve wracking experience. You’re walking into a foreign world of new equipment that requires certain form and safety awareness, you’re about to get sweaty and vulnerable in a room full of people you don’t know – and worse, they might judge you.
This is an all too common scenario I hear from someone who wants to make a change in their life, but may be self conscious about doing so. Being judged by seasoned gym-goers is a huge fear, and an unfortunate reality that discourages newcomers to a healthy way of life. This is particularly evident at this time of year, when we so often year gymgoers complaining about the “New Years Resolutioners” who are clogging up the gym, with comments about how they can’t wait for the herd to thin out – and I am SO disappointed by this attitude!
I find it baffling that these people don’t seem to remember that at one point, they were a beginner too. Someone who didn’t know what they were doing, someone taking the first step towards getting where they are today. Are their memories so short?
Instead, as seasoned gymgoers, we should be encouraging newcomers (regardless of the time of year), for taking the first step towards a healthy life. We should cheer them on for what could be a definitive moment in their lives, and we should also be willing to offer help, advice, and assistance with a smile. So this is my call to the seasoned, long term gym goers to be more supportive, to stop being so judgmental, and to remember how to be a courteous human being.
When I posted my thoughts on Facebook, I got varied responses, including:
“It makes it hard to work out!” – Really? Be creative and work around them. Maybe its an indication its time to change up your routine as well, and try something new.
“Well you know they won’t stick with it!” – This gets to me. DO you know that? No you don’t. You do not know whether or not someone will stick with their goal or not, because you have no idea what that person is capable of. Whether they start January 1st, or any day of the year, whether or not they are 5 lbs overweight or 100 lbs overweight, it doesn’t matter. You cannot anticipate if that person expects immediate results, of if they’re willing to work hard day in and day out, and you are not the judge of how bad they may want it. To assume you know otherwise is incredibly self righteous. That person deserves to be treated based on their potential just like you do, and not be assumed a failure.
Worst of all, one of my fans said she saw this quote on a Fan Page, which will remain nameless:
“It would be nice if we could get together as a group and take pictures of the buffalo in the gym tackinling their NYE resolutions. We’ll call it a month long social science experiment since they should be back to Mcribbing it up in a month”
I was disgusted that anyone in an industry dedicated to helping people feel healthy, happy, fit and confident could ever be so tactless, tasteless, and just plain rude! And its disheartening, to know so many in the industry have been saying much the same…
So I’m asking you with this post, to reconsider how you’ve been treating people at the gym since the new year, and to evaluate your attitude. Are you being self-righteous? Are you acting entitled? Could you be more supportive?
Inevitably, someone is going to read this post and think, “Its not MY responsibility to help someone at the gym, I don’t work there.” You’re right, its not. Just like its not your responsibility to hold the door for someone behind you or help someone pick up something they’ve dropped, and so on. But you still do them, because you’re a decent human being, and not a selfish jerk. No one is asking for you to completely derail your workouts either. Courtesy and a smile alone will get you a long ways.
And yes, occasionally, I judge. I judged the guy with the swastika and white power tattoos, I judged the drug addict who started jumping over benches and making karate noises, and I judged the woman sipping a Starbucks latte while walking on the treadmill. So I’m not perfect. I never said I was. But I’d like to think I do a pretty good job of supporting people when they’re trying something new.
What is your theme to guide you through the year?
Mine is The Year I Set Myself ON FIRE!
This year, I’m going to blaze brighter than ever, burn harder and increase the intensity in everything I do, until I’m a bonfire that no one can ignore. Watch out world, I’m coming for you. You can embrace the fire, or you can become coals in my wake.
Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire. ~Arnold H. Glasow
Below, I’ve provided a sample (100 Songs) of the music I like to listen to while working out – these songs incorporate what I use for weight lifting, cardio, pole fitness, aerial silks, kickboxing and many other workouts, so you will find a great variance in music choice. My tastes range from musical scores and theme songs, to things you might hear on the radio, right into obscure bands that aren’t well known.
Where available, I’ve attempted to include Youtube links to the songs. I hope you enjoy, and perhaps find something new to add to your list!
- Escape the Fate – Gorgeous Nightmare
- Metallica – Fuel
- Katzenjammer – A Bar in Amsterdam
- Mariana’s Trench – Toy Soldiers
- Mariana’s Trench – Desperate Measures
- Mariana’s Trench – Haven’t Had Enough
- Mariana’s Trench – Stutter
- Mariana’s Trench – Shake Tramp
- Mariana’s Trench – September
- Mariana’s Trench – Vertigo
- Mariana’s Trench – Celebrity Status
- Mariana’s Trench – Sing Sing
- Rob Zombie – Dragula
- Sonata Arctica – Kingdom for a Heart
- Sonata Arctica – San Sebastian
- Sonata Arctica – Still Loving You
- Rev Theory – Hell Yeah
- Theory of A Deadman – Bad Girlfriend
- Saving Abel – Addicted
- Saving Abel – New Tattoo
- Jakalope – Witness
- Emily Osment and Josh Ramsay – Hush
- Hot Rod Herman – Dragula Remix
- Rammestein – Feuer Frei
- Enomine – Mitternacht
- My Chemical Romance – Black Parade
- My Chemical Romance – The Sharpest Lives
- Voltaire – Zombie Prostitute
- Voltaire – Vampire Club
- Voltaire – Brains
- Christina Aguilera – Express
- Christina Aguilera – Show Me How You Burlesque
- Christina Aguilera - Not Myself Tonight
- Christina Aguilera – Vanity
- Pink – You and Your Hand
- Pink – So What
- Danny Fernandes and Josh Ramsay -Hit Me Up
- Shinedown – Sound of Madness
- Shinedown – Devour
- Shinedown – Sin With a Grin
- Shinedown – Cry for Help
- Hammerfall – Hearts on Fire
- Hammerfall – Blood Bound
- Hammerfall – Natural High
- Dropkick Murphys – The Gauntlet
- Within Temptation – What Have You Done?
- Within Temptation – The Howling
- Within Temptation – Angels
- Nightwish – Amaranth
- Nightwish – Bye Bye Beautiful
- Cee Lo Green – Fuck You
- My Darkest Days – Porn Star Dancing
- Adam Lambert- For Your Entertainment
- Repo! The Genetic Opera - Zydrate Anatomy
- Paramore – Thats What You Get
- Paramore - Let the Flames Begin
- Paramore – Fences
- Versa Emerge – Fixed at Zero
- Papa Roach – I Almost Told You that I Loved You
- Papa Roach – Hollywood Whore
- Oingo Boingo – Dead Man’s Party
- Oingo Boingo – No One Lives Forever
- Symphony X – Accolade II
- Symphony X – Out of the Ashes
- Game of Thrones – Intro Theme Song
- Ascetic Junkies – Dracula
- Concrete Blonde – Bloodletting
- DJ Bobo – Vampires are Alive
- DJ Bobo – Pirates of Dance
- Army of Lovers – Crucifed
- Dragon Force – Through the Fire and Flames
- Dream Evil – Fight You to the End
- Grace Potter and the Nocturnals – Paris (Ooh La La)
- I am Ghost - Lovers Requiem
- I am Ghost – Killer Likes Candy
- Jonathan Coulton – I Feel Fantastic
- Jonathan Coulton – Skullcrusher Mountain
- Maroon 5 – Moves like Jagger
- The Trews – Not Ready to Go
- Princess and the Frog – Friends on the Other Side
- Selena Gomez – Naturally
- Tom Jones – Sex Bomb
- Tom Jones – You Can Leave Your Hat On
- Warren Zevon – Werewolves of London
- Young Artists for Haiti – Wavin’ Flag
- Drowning Pool – Bodies
- Rancid - Red Hot Moon
- Finger Eleven – Paralyzer
- Nine Inch Nails – Hand that Feeds
- Blackmore’s Night – Storm
- Blackmore’s Night – Rainbow Blues
- Bowling for Soup – The Bitch Song
- Christina Perri – Bang Bang Bang
- David Guetta - Love is Gone
- Flogging Molly – Black Friday Rule
- Freedom Call – Carry On
- Gackt – Vanilla
- Great Big Sea – Company of Fools
- Great Big Sea – Consequence Free
- Great Big Sea – Ordinary Day
A New Year is upon us, and its time to make changes to make us happier, healthier, and better people! Here are a few of my New Years Resolutions:
- Media exposure: be in at least three fitness magazines this year (features or articles written by me), and try to end up on the cover of one, or at least be in negotiation.
- Shoot with at least one of the photographers on my ‘must shoot’ list.
- Obtain a Sponsorship! This is the year I get sponsored – look out companies! I’m coming for you!
- Build up my shoulders – to create a visible, round shape
- Shoulder Press 35 lbs consistently, perhaps 40.
- Tighten my glutes, reduce cellulite.
- Increase cardio capacity/endurance
- Eliminate bread and wheat from my diet, in favor of brown rice and quinoa.
- Wean myself from ketchup!
- Be more creative in the kitchen, to post new exciting recipes on my website.
- Become versed in Italian
- Take dancing lessons, or bellydancing, increase my talent with pole fitness, and train in aerial silks.
- Learn to crochet (Already in the works!)
- Pay it forward more – participate in more random acts of kindness, at least once a week.
What are you resolving to do this year? Leave a comment and let me know – and tell me how you plan to do it!
Because this topic garners a lot of questions and curiosity, here is a brief explanation of my lung condition:
As a child (~7), I contracted severe Pertussis, also known as Whooping Cough [I was unable to be vaccinated due to an allergy to the vaccine]. Unfortunately, the violent coughing left me with structural damage – which then led to the formation of scar tissue, which limits my air capacity, and slows down the rate at which I can metabolize oxygen. In short, I can’t breathe as fast, or hold as much air as the average person. And when this is strained, it can really hurt.
As a result of this condition, cardio has been extremely difficult for me. Through my school years I struggled through gym class, and was the last person to finish any laps, or timed runs. Hell, even a large flight of stairs or a moderate incline would leave me winded. (This is why people from high school would never suspect I would be a fitness model now!)
It took a long time to be able to perform cardio in any capacity. It was a very long, very slow process. Even now, tread mills and running are not my friends. But I know how to work around it. I know how to push myself effectively, without putting myself in danger. And every day, I’m getting stronger!
Just to be clear, my lung condition is just a part of who I am, and overcoming it is not what makes me a great fitness model or anything of the sort. I’m not going to push my story to win sympathy, or attention. I am proud of myself, yes, but I am a firm believer that the cards we are dealt are not what define us. But this is my story, and I’m happy to be frank and open about it because we all have challenges!Details